Found out that the birthmom considering us hasn’t decided yet (she must really be deliberating!) and also found out the our profile is still being viewed by others, which is good. They don’t take you out of circulation until you are picked and you agree to it. So that’s good to know!
Also found out that they call quarterly to , quote the phone message I recieved, ” see if you are still interested in adoption”….HELLO!?! We’ve paid you some cash, have had our home inspected, labored over a scrapbook, and have been told that someone’s been seriously considering us–why wouldn’t we be interested in adoption?!?!
Turns out that was just a poorly phrased message by an intern–really, they were calling to make sure that our contact info was the same, that we were still interested in a “soon as possible placement”, etc. Turns out some people don’t call when they move/change #’s, magically get pregnant or happen by a child in some other way. Go figure.
So long story short: it is all status quo .
In reading Rachael’s comment, maybe we aren’t out of circulation. We just sort of assumed that we were…she’s got our little book. But our profile IS probably still in the big book (that’s where they narrow it down)…who knows!! After reading all of the paper work the BM fills out, and all of the releases she signs, I honestly am at peace with her taking as long as she needs (most days)–it is SO HUGE!! Personally, I can’t even read through that paper work w/o get the willies. So it goes……
So it’s been awhile since our first phone call from St. E’s saying that there’s a b-mom out there, considering us, along with 2 other couples. Some days we actually forget about it for hours at a time. Haven’t heard any more……and we’ve put off calling about it for quite awhile–they’ll call us, right?
L finally calls today (I almost dialed yesterday but chickened out), and turns out—She Hasn’t Decided Yet!! Which means that we are still potential parents w/ a due date in August!! So, while it will SUCK if she doesn’t choose us (we’ve been out of circulation since she started considering us), she’s still considering us. I don’t know the other couples she’s looking at, but maybe we can arrange joint custody!?! Who knows, but I was encouraged today!