In reading Rachael’s comment, maybe we aren’t out of circulation. We just sort of assumed that we were…she’s got our little book. But our profile IS probably still in the big book (that’s where they narrow it down)…who knows!! After reading all of the paper work the BM fills out, and all of the releases she signs, I honestly am at peace with her taking as long as she needs (most days)–it is SO HUGE!! Personally, I can’t even read through that paper work w/o get the willies. So it goes……
So it’s been awhile since our first phone call from St. E’s saying that there’s a b-mom out there, considering us, along with 2 other couples. Some days we actually forget about it for hours at a time. Haven’t heard any more……and we’ve put off calling about it for quite awhile–they’ll call us, right?
L finally calls today (I almost dialed yesterday but chickened out), and turns out—She Hasn’t Decided Yet!! Which means that we are still potential parents w/ a due date in August!! So, while it will SUCK if she doesn’t choose us (we’ve been out of circulation since she started considering us), she’s still considering us. I don’t know the other couples she’s looking at, but maybe we can arrange joint custody!?! Who knows, but I was encouraged today!
Tuesday afternoon I’m sitting with a small group of children and we are discussing the “parts of the car” vocabulary cards. The hood, the wheel, the trunk, etc… No mention of a family sedan or anything, but here’s the conversation:
“Mrs. M, when will you have a baby?” asks a curious five year old.
“I don’t know,” I answer.
“Why don’t you have one?”
“I’m not sure,” once agian, choosing not to explain infertility. Suddenly, the conversation sounds like one I had with my parents when I stayed out too late–trying to plead the fifth.
“Do you and Mr. M live together or are you separated?”
“We live together,” I answer, wondering where in the heck this will go.
“You live together? So why don’t you have a baby?”
Time to change the subject, and quick, before she starts asking about sleeping arrangements, “Priyanka, do you know someone who is separated?”
“Yes, my dad’s sister.”
Apparently, her aunt has dodged giving her a cousin by playing the “separated” card….