Looking at Him

DSCN6206.AVIThis weekend I got to spend some serious one-on-one time with Junior. I got see him, really, just him. He got to have a taste of life as an only child. I can’t believe that every weekend used to be like this with MAM, but I’m sure I appreciated this weekend a little more because now one-on-one time with just one is so rare.

Anyway…..this weekend I was really looking at him\ I wanted to see what he would do without his older half leading the way. Without her prompting his reactions, without her protesting his every reach and grab for her toys….

Junior is most definitely a toddling toddler. He likes to push our giant Graco stroller via the storage basket–yesterday he pushed it all the way down the street and back. He is all about taking things out, throwing them around, and then picking them all back up and doing it again. He understands SO MUCH of what we say to him–we just need to give him a minute to respond (this may involve restraining his sister from interferring). Today he brought me his shoes, picked up his coat and walked out the door with me all by himself.

He thinks eyedrops tickle.

He likes to sit at the table, rather than use the tray on the booster seat.

He love to look at babies, and waves at them in magazines.

He loves all vehicles, with all his heart. He know helicopters are supposed to fly–when he pulls it out of the Matchbox box, he zooms it over his head. He thinks it tickles when he drives the cars over his torso.

When he points to the pantry and says, “Crack!” He most certainly means graham crackers, and not those silly saltines.

He slides down the stairs these days, faster than I can walk down them.

He is phenomenal.

Ok, I’m biased, but it’s true.

What No One Told Me About Adoption

Today is the first of many-to-come blog carnivals at Grown In My Heart. Today’s kick off topic is “What No One Told Me About Adoption”

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Jr., 10 months old

1) I wish I had known that the homestudy was really more of a “getting to know you” meeting and not a white-glove inspection. I should have dusted less and relaxed a little more.

2) I wish I had known how awful and presumptive it sounds to call expectant women “birthmothers” long before they have given birth/began the process of placement.

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Sweet MAM, one week old

3) I wish I could have imagined how completely and totally our children have captured the hearts of our family and friends. A snapshot of “what will be” would have warmed my heart on some of the darker days of waiting.

4) I  wish I had known more about how adoption affects the families who place children for adoption.

5) I wish I had heard Tonggu Momma’s response, ” That’s private, I’m surprised you’re comfortable asking that question.”

6) I wish I had an inkling as to how instantly bonded I would become to other adoptive parents. There’s a level of connection that can’t be described, only experienced.

7) This is, of course, is impossible…but I wish I would have know how incredibly spectacular our adoption experience would be. That it would be worth every bit of heartache and wondering, every form filled out, every trip to be fingerprinted, every trip for a TB test, etc. Totally and utterly worth it.

Do you have a wish list?? Post it and then link it to Mr. Linky and meet other members of the adoption triad through Grown in My Heart!