The Open Adoption Roundtable is something I’ve been wanting to become involved with for quite sometime, and this week is the week I’m doing it! Basically, Heather posts a prompt. Then we write.
“Open adoption is about information sharing.” Share your reaction to that statement. How well does it match up with your experience of open adoption? If you disagree, how would you finish the phrase, “Open adoption is about…”?
My reaction to that statement? My reaction to that statement is that the professional sharing it was giving prospective adoptive parents the least-scary, most basic, most general definition of what Open Adoption is. My definitions are a little more involved, and a lot more personal.
Open Adoption is what all the families involved make it.
Open Adoption, today, is my daughter’s paternal grandmother coming over to drop off some things for my son (not bio related to her) because her neighbor is getting rid of some little boy things.
Open Adoption, earlier this week, was talking to Jane about the loss of her oldest son’s uncle. It was looking for and reading his obituary. It was sending a card to his parents, in whose home we’ve celebrated Christmas and birthdays.
Open Adoption is laughing hysterically when a girlfreind has a memory lapse, and tells me that Jr will tall, because my husband and I are tall. It’s laughing, and then it’s consoling her with the fact that we know his genetics include a father and a mother who are similiar in size and stature to us.
Open Adoption is believing that knowing is better than not knowing. You can’t love what/whom you don’t know. You can’t learn and grow with a person if you don’t know them. You can’t let someone learn and grow with your children if you don’t know them.
Interested in seeing what else has been posted on this topic? Check out today’s post at Production, Not Reproduction for more!
Also, I am talking about Open Adoption today at Grown in My Heart. Talk about good timing…..
Hi Michele! I really liked this: Open Adoption is believing that knowing is better than not knowing. You can’t love what/whom you don’t know. You can’t learn and grow with a person if you don’t know them. You can’t let someone learn and grow with your children if you don’t know them.
Very well said 🙂
Thanks for your kind words, Leigh. When people as me why we are in an open adoption, why we even said we were willing to explore the option, that has always been my reasoning.