Comments on: Grown in My Heart Adoption Carnival V: Reform

By: Upstatemomof3

Upstatemomof3 — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 04:11:02 +0000

I think identifying information is so important. I think that all people should have their original birth certificates and all the information that goes along with it. I cannot imagine not knowing at least the names and story behind what brought us together.

By: Amy

Amy — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 08:00:58 +0000

My dh is adopted and I think that an open adoption would have made a huge difference to him. He was recently able to get some more information about the situation surrounding his adoption, which he is glad for. Unfortunately, his birth mother opted not to meet him, which was a big blow.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 12:11:01 +0000

@Stephanie
Stephanie, I know what you mean. Adoption will be part of their experience (and ours), it’s our job to support them in processing that. I’m glad we’re friends IRL–we are going to need each other, and our children may need each other too!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 12:08:49 +0000

Hazel, I agree. We don’t have a lot of info or contact with our son’s bio father–but we do know things. I think as he gets older, that info is going to become precious to him. Some people I know think exchanging info is a sort of threat to us, it is SO the opposite! Thanks for commenting

By: Hazel

Hazel — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 04:50:39 +0000

Very well said! My husband and I have access to our son’s mother’s information and although she doesn’t want to have anything to do with her son (at least that’s what she told social workers and in writing), still she could change her mind later on. Besides, her feelings notwithstanding, it is still my son’s right to know everything. This fact also takes a good amount of load off my shoulders because what little information we have about her helps us understand our little boy more. Yes, information, no matter how little, goes a long way.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 22:56:49 +0000

Good, I am the first to comment. I agree with you about open adoption. I have so many of my family and friends telling me it is not what I need to focus my attention on. However, I feel because so much of my attention is focused on my child, I have to place some focus on our open adoption situation.
Adoption will aways be apart of our lives. I do not know how our child will react to adoption, but I feel she deserves the option to explore it if she wishes.